So we have reached the halfway point, only 6 days until I am 24! So here is day 6 of Lessons I’ve Learnt before turning 24. You do not need to justify your actions and your choices to ANYONE.
What does this mean?
Your life is your life. You make your own decisions because of how they impact you and no one should question your decisions otherwise. They don’t know you or your situation, what you’re going through and possible repercussions. No one else can dictate the choices you make in life other than yourself and not only that, you do not need to explain these choices to anyone.
For example like Day 5, the post was on saying yes, but also saying no. AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO JUSTIFY WHY YOU SAY EITHER. Especially no. People always need a reason as to why the word NO has come out from your lips. Why? Again I can understand this experience is fully situational. If you feel your friends and family warrant an explanation then give it to them in a way you feel fit. If you want to say no to something and not have to explain the causes because it’s personal, then thats that. No one should force you to speak out otherwise about things you don’t want too, just to justify to them why you said no to seeing them or doing something with them. And as your friends or family they should understand that anyway.
You do not need to justify your actions.
If you are doing something because it is right for you. Get out there and do it. People keep telling me I’m wasting my time looking at going back to university to study Crisis and Disaster Management as a masters. But I feel it is right for me. I don’t need to say anything more than that because I do not need to justify to anyone why I feel it is the right path for me. I am doing it for me. Not for anyone else.
Day 6 of Lessons I’ve Learnt in the run up to 24, Say Yes, but not to everything. But also, It’s absolutely okay to say no.
What does this mean?
I find that a lot of the time when people ask me to do something I will jump straight away and say yes, because why not? Live and let live, enjoy your life and go out and have fun with everyone and everything life has to offer. BUT, from saying yes so much it can cause you to completely burn out. You don’t have to say yes to everything and thats okay. Friends invite you for drinks but you’re mentally exhausted and also can’t afford it. They tell you they’ll pay for your drinks for you. Thats really lovely and all, but you can still say no. You have to think about number one, and that is you.
It is okay to say no. Say it with me. IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO.
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK.
Being a yes person is really nice and exciting because you do so much and see so much, but its absolutely okay to say no as well. You need to take time to yourself and do other things for yourself. This links back to Day 1 explaining how important self care is. They all interlink in some small way or another.
I also know that sometimes it isn’t that easy. Some people get a little off with you or a little funny with you when you say no, and honestly? Fuck these people. It’s something they have to come to terms with themselves. But I also understand at the same time it is situational. If you say no to something thats been planned for week, then yes I can appreciate there will be backlash from it. But at the same time, it’s something I’m sure would be taken into consideration before the decision is made.
At the end of the day, You have to think about what you want out of it and how you’re feeling! If you’re down, say yes, if you’re not, say no.
And the best part? You don’t have to justify why either (but thats for Day 6).