The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 11

Today is day 11, which means tomorrow I turn 24! Woot Woot! Lockdown birthday in progress!

So whats Day 11’s lesson? Friends come and go, and thats okay because no doubt you learnt something valuable from these people. They’re just heading off to teach someone else something important without them even knowing it too.

What does this mean?

When you go through life you meet so so many people, people you thought you’d know forever and people you thought you’d never lose touch with. But as you get older you son realise your primary school besties may not be your besties for the rest of your life. But in this, you had fun with these people, they taught you different things, and now three off to influence other people with their good vibes too.

These are the people I love meeting in life. their vibes are immaculate, nothing but good energy, and you know what if you become distant it’s not because it’s sour or wrong. They’re just ready to teach someone else their values and experiences the way they did you, even if you don’t even realise it. A lot of the time we don’t until we look back at memories with these people and think

“Yeah, that was actually really great, and so was he/she”.

BUT there are also friends who will teach you other valuable lessons in friendship and negativity. Not every friendship is smooth sailing and unfortunately it can take its toll on you and maybe even then. You’re teaching each other something, and although it maybe how not to talk to people or how not to treat people. You’re learning none the less, but the freedom you’ll feel once these friends go, whether you make the decision to go or they do. You’ll come away feeling better in more ways than one thats for sure.

But remember, friends coming and going doesn’t always mean they don’t like you either. It’s natural to drift apart and go on separate courses of your life, everyone is following their own path and adventure. This was another anxiety issue I really struggled with, why does this person not want to talk to me? It’s not that they dislike me, maybe we are just at different stages in life. That acceptance is so important to learn too.

Life is all about learning, and the people and friends in our life teach us a lot more than we realise! Whether they’re in your life still or not, it doesn’t matter as they helped you grow in some way or another. And you can either say thank you, or fuck you.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 10

Day 10 of Life Lessons Learnt before turning 24, todays lesson; Keep going. Whether it’s for you, for your family, for you future. Keep pushing your limits. Keep moving.

What does this mean?

For me, I feel this means don’t stop what you’re doing, don’t stop following your dreams, don’t stop getting by in life because you are doing the best you can. Keep going. Try things out of your comfort zone, or don’t? Try different methods for different things, focus on your aspirations and your dreams, what can you do to get there? Keep going through the motions to do so.

And don’t let anyone get in the way of your journey. Keep moving, keep trundling by especially if things are slow moving for you. But don’t give up. Keep those training wheels going even if your bum aches from the seat and your eyes are tired and your legs hurt and your brain is frazzled. Keep peddling.

Not every day is a bad day, but it’s totally fine to have bad days when you do. take a step back to recuperate instead of not doing that, and having to take 2 steps back to recover.

You can’t have sunshine without a little rain. Just keep persevering, keep going and keep pushing. And hey, you never know where pushing your limits can take you? The world is your oyster. Take advantage of that, keep your training wheels going. You never know, they might come off and you’ll be out there dirt biking over hills and doing mad stunts.

What I’m trying to say is, don’t give up. Keep going, even when the going gets tough. As they say, the tough get going.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 9

So day 9 is upon us, what do I have to say to that? You can’t please everyone. Thats the lesson learnt for day 9.

What does this mean?

For me being the anxious person I am I find I focus a lot on making other people happy, and when this doesn’t happen or I feel like this hasn’t happened, I worry I’ve upset someone/said something wrong and I honestly fester on it for days and days worrying about it. The thought of even making someone feel this way makes me feel so defeated in everything I want to stand for.

BUT, I also realised that this really wasn’t healthy for me to obsess about it the way that I do. It actually really became an issue for me.

At the end of the day. I am going to do things in my life that not everyone might agree on. Whether it be decisions made for work, for going back to university, where I live, the way I live my life, my small habits etc. Realistically, it’s my life. I can live it any way I choose, and although I love to have other people in mind when I do things. I can’t always please everyone or make everyone happy because everyone has such different standards and expectations to mine.

And this is okay.

It’s just really nice to remind myself that every now and then I might piss someone off, but I’m okay with it because as long as I’m happy, its their problem not mine.

You cant please everyone.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 8

Day 8 of Lessons I’ve Learnt before turning 24! Day 8 is all about making sure you remember to show and tell your friends and family you love them.

What does this mean?

I feel like this is so so important. Show your friends and family how much you appreciate them, care for them, love them, how much you miss them if you’re far away from each other and how much you can’t wait to see them soon. Make plans with these people because they are SO important in your life. Sat doing nothing for an hour or so? Call your loved ones, text your loved ones, FaceTime them.

Make sure they know about it.

You never know when it might be the last time you see them or speak to them and that has always stuck in my mind. Hug and kiss your family goodbye, tell your friends you love them before you go somewhere or they go somewhere. Make the last words before you leave them count. But also make the time you’re with them count as well.

A lot of people in your life come and go, but it doesn’t mean it has to be in vain or a bitter situation. Burn bridges and don’t leave sour tastes in peoples mouths. I’m a firm believer of treat others how you wish to be treated. If you’re kind, people have no reason to be anything untoward to you. Also consider other peoples feelings. Even if you aren’t the biggest fan of someone, you don’t need to be hostile or awful to them. Don’t lower yourself and do that. Be the bigger person.

Tell your loved ones that you love them. They might know it, but maybe they need to hear it too.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 6

So we have reached the halfway point, only 6 days until I am 24! So here is day 6 of Lessons I’ve Learnt before turning 24. You do not need to justify your actions and your choices to ANYONE.

What does this mean?

Your life is your life. You make your own decisions because of how they impact you and no one should question your decisions otherwise. They don’t know you or your situation, what you’re going through and possible repercussions. No one else can dictate the choices you make in life other than yourself and not only that, you do not need to explain these choices to anyone.

For example like Day 5, the post was on saying yes, but also saying no. AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO JUSTIFY WHY YOU SAY EITHER. Especially no. People always need a reason as to why the word NO has come out from your lips. Why? Again I can understand this experience is fully situational. If you feel your friends and family warrant an explanation then give it to them in a way you feel fit. If you want to say no to something and not have to explain the causes because it’s personal, then thats that. No one should force you to speak out otherwise about things you don’t want too, just to justify to them why you said no to seeing them or doing something with them. And as your friends or family they should understand that anyway.

You do not need to justify your actions.

If you are doing something because it is right for you. Get out there and do it. People keep telling me I’m wasting my time looking at going back to university to study Crisis and Disaster Management as a masters. But I feel it is right for me. I don’t need to say anything more than that because I do not need to justify to anyone why I feel it is the right path for me. I am doing it for me. Not for anyone else.

I don’t need to justify why, and neither do you.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 5

Day 6 of Lessons I’ve Learnt in the run up to 24, Say Yes, but not to everything. But also, It’s absolutely okay to say no.

What does this mean?

I find that a lot of the time when people ask me to do something I will jump straight away and say yes, because why not? Live and let live, enjoy your life and go out and have fun with everyone and everything life has to offer. BUT, from saying yes so much it can cause you to completely burn out. You don’t have to say yes to everything and thats okay. Friends invite you for drinks but you’re mentally exhausted and also can’t afford it. They tell you they’ll pay for your drinks for you. Thats really lovely and all, but you can still say no. You have to think about number one, and that is you.

It is okay to say no. Say it with me. IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO.

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK.

Being a yes person is really nice and exciting because you do so much and see so much, but its absolutely okay to say no as well. You need to take time to yourself and do other things for yourself. This links back to Day 1 explaining how important self care is. They all interlink in some small way or another.

I also know that sometimes it isn’t that easy. Some people get a little off with you or a little funny with you when you say no, and honestly? Fuck these people. It’s something they have to come to terms with themselves. But I also understand at the same time it is situational. If you say no to something thats been planned for week, then yes I can appreciate there will be backlash from it. But at the same time, it’s something I’m sure would be taken into consideration before the decision is made.

At the end of the day, You have to think about what you want out of it and how you’re feeling! If you’re down, say yes, if you’re not, say no.

And the best part? You don’t have to justify why either (but thats for Day 6).

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 4

Day 4 of Lessons I’ve Learnt before turning 24 is to pursue your passions and wants, try new things, even if the passion and want only lasts for a day.

What does this mean?

If you want to do something, do it. You feel like starting a bullet journal? Do it, and if you start doing it and decide it isn’t for you, at least you tried hey? I think thats the most important thing, you don’t know until you try. I decided I wanted to learn French again and I’ve been at it ever since lockdown one and I was really passionate about it from the start. I’m very lucky that I’ve continued this passion and worked to learn more french!

BUT It doesn’t always work out that way and thats absolutely fine, life is all about trial and error. If you want to try and write a book with your passion of writing but you get started and you aren’t enjoying yourself or the process, at least you sat down and gave it a damn good shot.

You never know what you could get from your passions and wants, if could really turn out for the best. Take blogging and myself for example. I wanted to write and I never thought I’d ever get this far or have been blogging for this long. Try these things. Introduce something new into your life that you’re unsure about until you do it.

It could bring you on such an adventure you never even knew you wanted or needed to go on.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 3

Day 3 really closely coincides with Day 2. Day 2 was that everyone is on their own journey in life, including yourself, and not to be so hard on yourself and where you’re at . Day 3 resonates closely with day 2 because the lesson I’ve learnt in partner with this is that where you are at in life does NOT define who you are.

So what does this mean?

For me, the fact I am not currently in a career I want to be in doesn’t make me lazy, demotivated or not driven. People will try to judge you based on where you’re at in your life and might even compare you to where they’re at. I hate the elitism that comes with this. Friends saying they’ve got more money than me because they work harder and earn more. Good for you for starters, thats amazing. But so what? Because I earn less than you or am working less hours doesn’t mean I’m anything less of a person with goals and aspirations.

Im currently sat in my hotel job and I can only imagine people think I’m still in it because I want a cushty life. For starters, there nothing cushty about working in hotels and I’m sure everyone who’s done it will tell you. Customer service is a BITCH. But, I’m also a bad bitch. I’m still in this job because it works for me right now. It doesn’t define me as a person who’s settles for the sake of it. In fact, it doesn’t define me at all.

Just because you want what you want doesn’t define you. Just like what others want doesn’t define them.

Another one of my personal favourites is, “So you still haven’t made it to Australia then?,” Uh, there is currently a global pandemic happening, so if you could tell me how you expect me to be there right now I’d appreciate that a lot. What I don’t appreciate is the judgement that comes with it. I’m a bum who doesn’t want to work and that BAFFLES ME. I want to EXPLORE, there is SO MUCH MORE to life than sitting at a desk every day, and yeah it might make you happy but it won’t make me happy! And that DOESN’T DEFINE ME AS A PERSON.

I can be hardworking without the aspiration goals of working 70+ hour weeks or the typical norm of what is seen to be right. I feel this lesson can be very person specific and situational, and I feel that it is not my aspirations in life an my goals that define me as a person because My personality does that for me. And when you meet me you can take from that what you will. But don’t ever judge me based on what I want in life, and don’t let anyone ever do the same to you.

KNOW YOUR WORTH.

Happy New Year – 2021 Goals!

Happy New Year you wonderful lot!

We are back for another year of goals, blogging and adventure in travels and books! I can’t wait to see what this year holds. Although with a weak start with Covid-19 putting me back in Tier 4 restrictions and furloughed from work at least it will give me plenty of time to work on my blog and socials. Speaking of my blog and socials that is where a lot of my goals lie for this year, as well as a personal few of my own, and I’d really like to share these with you all. I believe if I share these goals with you it will help me to manifest and push my goals forward!

So here are my goals for 2021;

Reach my Goodreads reading goal of 50 books! I feel I may be pushing it this year with 50 books especially as last year I had lockdown and furlough to help me along, this year I am only furloughs until March and I hope to get back to normality after that (We can hope). Therefore I feel like I may be pushing myself, but hey isn’t that what goals are about? So here is to reaching 50 books this year, I’ll be reviewing these books as I go as well so stay tuned!

Reach 350 followers and 20 email followers for my blog! A huge goal, but I am hoping this is something that I can reach. So if you’re reading this with your WordPress sight, drop me a follow, lets help each other as I will absolutely return the love and favour.

Reach 2000 followers on my blog Instagram, Wandererandtraveller, so that I can share so much more with you beautiful people! I love Instagram and it is my favorite social media platform. I also love seeing everyone else adventures too especially in a time where we can’t travel as much as we would like.

A language goal now. In lockdown 1, 2020, I decided to start learning French to keep me going and give me something to do. I decided I wanted to really up my french language and started learning on Duolingo. I now have a 300 page French workbook and hope to smash the whole thing out so it will help me learn! As well as listening to Duolingo’s French podcasts as well, although I am not at the intermediate stage so the podcast is a little difficult I am hoping to be able to understand it better.

I also in lockdown 1 started a Digital Media Marketing course with Google Classroom and never completed it. Thats another huge goal for me. To sit down to learn and finish this course. I feel like my brain will turn to mush otherwise! Especially with no work going on at the moment I need to make sure I keep myself mentally stimulated otherwise I might also loose the will and motivation.

More blogging collaborations! I LOVE working with the girls on my Blog Brew Collaboration so it is only right to help make that collaboration even better, but also participate in more! More blogger awards, more blogging collaborations, more guest posts! Sharing is caring and helping each other along the way. The happiest of goals for 2021.

So there are some of my goals for 2021! Some which will take a lot of time and effort and others which I can master along the way. As long as I give myself the time and keep up morale and motivation I should be able to power through!

What are your 2021 goals? Let me know in the comments!

The Blog Brew – Drowning Prevention Week: How to be safe in the water.

And we are back with another month of Blog Brew collaboration posts from the girls! This month we are focusing on Awareness days/weeks!

Drowning Prevention Week, How to be safe in the water.

Drowning prevention week is something that is very important to myself. I have always lived by the sea all my life, been a water baby and for 4 summers I was an RNLI Lifeguard for my local beaches. I understand how important it is to be safe when swimming in the ocean and you should too. I will be writing from the perspective of being careful in the sea but this also is the same for swimming pools and any body of water you want to go in so you can #BeALifesaver, the official RLSS Drowning Prevention Week hashtag!

Did you know it takes only 3 minutes for you to drown?

Over 700 people drown every year. Here is how you can swim safely!

Look out for lifeguards.

They are here to help! Most importantly make sure you SWIM BETWEEN THE RED AND YELLOW FLAGS. These flags are there for a reason, it is the safest place to swim on the beach and that area is also being monitored by the lifeguards so if you do get in any trouble for whatever reason they will be there to lend a helping hand. Its the same at a swimming pool, the lifeguards are there to help. If you are swimming in an area where lifeguards do not operate ensure to keep an eye on the points below and be careful.

Its Colder than it looks.

Cold water shock. You know when you run, jump or dive into some cold water and it takes your breath away? That is cold water shock. The shock of the cold water on your body can prevent you from being able to draw breath and this can prevent you form being able to swim or help yourself.

Don’t go too far.

If you are out of your depth and unable to stand you may find the currents are stronger than your swimming ability, which brings us to the next point…

Its stronger than it looks.

Some currents can be so strong it could sweep you away within seconds. Never underestimate and undercurrent. You might not be able to see it but if you can see you’re moving along the shoreline it’s definitely there. A prime example is rip tide. If you swim into a rip tide this will pull you out to sea. If you feel you are being pulled out tot see and unable to swim against this current SWIM SIDEWAYS. A rip current is almost like a funnel of water. If you swim left or right of this funnel you should eventually reach the outside area of the rip tide. Although you are till not save once outside the rip. which bring us to the next point of….

Bringing a friend!

Make sure if you are not a strong swimmer or you want to feel that much safer always ensure to bring a friend and don’t swim alone. Especially if you aren’t confident, if you are then ensure you are nearby lifeguards so they may assist you if you need help!

If at a swimming pool, FOLLOW POOL RULES.

These rules are there for a reason. To look after yourself, your family, your friends and everyone around you. Ensure your own safety and others, make sure to notify the lifeguard if you have any issues.

#BEALIFESAVER this year.

With our beaches having a limited lifeguard presence this year due to Covid-19 remember to swim and stay safe where and when you can, head to the link below to stay safe in the water all year around in pools, open water swimming and the ocean.

https://www.rlss.org.uk/Pages/Category/water-safety-information

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10th June – Head over to  https://perselem.blog

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14th June– Head over to https://mybreakingviews.com

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