The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 2

On day 2 of Lessons Learnt before turning 24, Everyone does life at their own pace, you don’t need to go any faster or slower. You are your own person.

What does this mean?

I know for a lot of people my age when you look around you all of your friends are at different stages in their life. Some have started a full time career in their dream jobs, others have jobs that are seeing them through for now, some have hopped on a plane never to return, or maybe to return but no idea when, some have houses, a mortgage, nice cars, even nicer lifestyles you could only dream about, and some even have children. I found this whole thing really, really intimidating. It made me wonder if I am at a successful place in my life. But so many people have also said to me that your story is your own, and

right now you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

It doesn’t matter about anyone else and what or how they’re doing in their journey. You’re on a different path, and that is SO important to keep in mind.

I want a career in Crisis & Disaster management or Hotel Management, I want to travel the world, come back and get a house and get my career going, get a dog and worry about children later. Thats ME. I shouldn’t need to look at others and look at my life and compare because it isn’t healthy. I didn’t want to start my career before I left for Australia because I was afraid I’d never go if I did. AND THAT IS OKAY. That’s okay if i’m behind my friends in kicking off my career. At the end of the day I’m totally happy where I am in my life and with what I’m doing. I know what I want, and I’ll go for it when I’m ready or it will come to me when the time is right.

And thats something I believe is important for everyone to remember. Don’t compare your life to others, you’re on your own journey figuring out your life in your own way, on your own path and ON YOUR TERMS. Don’t let anyone dictate you or tell you where you need to be. They’re not in control of your life. You are.

So embrace where you are now. Things can change so quickly, especially with how the world is right now. So just enjoy where you’re at, in the words of Zayn Malik’s twitter bio;

Just close your eyes and enjoy the rollercoaster that is life.

June Reading Round Up

I haven’t managed to read as much in recent months as I have in the past few months which makes me sad, but I’ve still managed to get through a couple of books! I’ve upped my reading goal to #35 for the year and I am currently on 34 books! So I might have to up it again! Here is what I managed to read this June!

The Kiss Quotient (#1) – Helen Hoang

This was such a beautiful love story, I especially love the POV from Stella who is Autistic. I always find books like this really informative as well. As a person who doesn’t suffer from Autism its really good to know boundaries like how she doesn’t like being touched, loud room and crowded places and other points throughout the book. That made me love this couple even more, how gentle he is with her. but GOD DAMN is it one SAUCY book. I was not prepared for the amount of sex but it was definitely welcomed. I also enjoyed the cultural aspects which made it all the more interesting for me!

The Bridge Test (#2) – Helen Hoang

In this second book of the series you meet Esme from Vietnam and Khai who was introduced to us briefly in the first book, he is also autistic and it was good one again to learn his different needs and boundaries once again. Another beautiful love story and I love that it entwines well with book one and the characters and storyline from the previous book. I was hooked all the way through dying for everything to work out how it should do. I loved both of these books so much.

BUT IMAGINE FINISHING THE BOOK TO DISCOVER THE THIRD BOOK ISN’T OUT UNTIL MAY 2021, I AM GUTTED, And I also can’t wait and absolutely have it on pre-order for my Kindle already!

Two Brothers – Ben Elton

Based in Nazi Germany an absolutely heartbreaking story about a Jewish family in Berlin. I really really loved this because I love the historic aspect. I have a real morbid fascination about Holocaust books, I find them so informative to read. This story really is heartbreaking and shows the things young people will do for love, especially in such a difficult time. But I love the friendship dynamic between the 4 main characters, The Saturday Club. But if there is anything I hate, it’s Dagmar. She a bitch.

Finding Emma (#1) – Steena Holmes

I’ve been waiting to read this book for so long! And it was worth the wait, constantly something happening and I was totally hooked and waiting for the next huge thing. I Felt so sorry for Megan throughout the whole thing especially for her marriage. The ending was also everything I could have possibly wanted and more and made me really happy. I can’t say at any point I warmed to Dottie. I thought she was nasty the whole way through even though I know she was suffering.

Emma’s Secret (#2) – Steena Holmes

This book was a little more disappointing. Emma didn’t really have a secret. Well she did, but it wasn’t huge enough to name the book Emma’s Secret. I felt it was still interesting and kept me reading but I wasn’t overly impressive.

Dear Jack (#3) – Steen Holmes

Extracts from Dottie’s journals as she journals throughout the whole book. It was interesting to read her POV especially as I was always so apprehensive of Dottie and I still don’t like her very much. Although this short and sweet book made me sympathise with her more I just felt more sorry for Jack more than anything.

Less – Andrew Sean Greer

This was a book club suggestion and oh my GOD did I LOVE this. Following Arthur Less’s travel journey form country to country and as a writer and ex lover of a famous poet, not to mention the scandal that came with that, I was totally hooked by this book. It was written so well and beautifully, I just wanted to give Arthur Less a cuddle but also follow him on all his adventures.

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time – Mark Haddon

I’ve read this book already before but I think its just SO good that I had to re-read it. Not only is the storyline phenomenal but I love all the maths equations and the way Christopher describes things. its clear that the book isn’t about Aspergers but about being an outsider and different. I also love Toby, his pet rat.

Heres to another month of reading more books, I would LOVE some suggestions, drop me a comment for some good books!

The Global Quarantine Diaries – Helen

Global Quarantine Diaries

Where in the world are you located?

I live in a sleepy little town in Cheshire in the UK. It is picture perfect and we absolutely love it here. Formatively, I have lived in many counties through out the UK due to my Fathers job. In fact this is the longest I have ever stayed in one place! 9 years and counting, for the first time in my life, I have a house that feels like my forever home. 

What is lockdown regulations like there? 

As I am shielding due to an on going argument with that thing known as The Big C, my lockdown regulations have been very strict. I have been unable to leave my home for over 10 weeks. This proves interesting when trying to homeschool 3 kiddies who want nothing more than to do fun stuff and play out with their friends! It turns out I am a terrible teacher, as they are students!

How are you keeping busy?

As a Mum of 3, I never have the time to keep busy! It is constantly a mad house, full of chaos, but most importantly full of love. On the upside, when we have been attempting homeschooling, it has given me the opportunity to think, create and write for my blog and side hustles. I have also taken on an absurd amount of DIY tasks, in the genuine belief we would be bored if we hadn’t got plenty to do. The reality of it is I don’t have time to be bored nor time to get everything done! Who knew how short 10 weeks really were when there was a mountain of things to do on The List of Doom.

What do you miss doing the most?

Having coffee with my girlfriends. In all the years of friendship I have been fortunate to amass with my besties, I have never had to go so long without seeing them. I struggle with zoom/facetime interactions as I find them stunted if there are more than a couple of people on them. I can’t wait to go for a walk with my pooch and a cuppa with my besties. 

What is the first thing you’re going to do once lockdown is over?

Spend time by myself! It turns out I am a very solitary person, and I am really struggling being in a house full of lunatics 24/7. I can’t wait to drop the kiddies back to school (hopefully in September!) and enjoy the silence of the car journey home. Then I am driving straight to my aforementioned besties house for a long over due hug! Turns out for a loner, I really enjoy a cuddle.

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