The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 11

Today is day 11, which means tomorrow I turn 24! Woot Woot! Lockdown birthday in progress!

So whats Day 11’s lesson? Friends come and go, and thats okay because no doubt you learnt something valuable from these people. They’re just heading off to teach someone else something important without them even knowing it too.

What does this mean?

When you go through life you meet so so many people, people you thought you’d know forever and people you thought you’d never lose touch with. But as you get older you son realise your primary school besties may not be your besties for the rest of your life. But in this, you had fun with these people, they taught you different things, and now three off to influence other people with their good vibes too.

These are the people I love meeting in life. their vibes are immaculate, nothing but good energy, and you know what if you become distant it’s not because it’s sour or wrong. They’re just ready to teach someone else their values and experiences the way they did you, even if you don’t even realise it. A lot of the time we don’t until we look back at memories with these people and think

“Yeah, that was actually really great, and so was he/she”.

BUT there are also friends who will teach you other valuable lessons in friendship and negativity. Not every friendship is smooth sailing and unfortunately it can take its toll on you and maybe even then. You’re teaching each other something, and although it maybe how not to talk to people or how not to treat people. You’re learning none the less, but the freedom you’ll feel once these friends go, whether you make the decision to go or they do. You’ll come away feeling better in more ways than one thats for sure.

But remember, friends coming and going doesn’t always mean they don’t like you either. It’s natural to drift apart and go on separate courses of your life, everyone is following their own path and adventure. This was another anxiety issue I really struggled with, why does this person not want to talk to me? It’s not that they dislike me, maybe we are just at different stages in life. That acceptance is so important to learn too.

Life is all about learning, and the people and friends in our life teach us a lot more than we realise! Whether they’re in your life still or not, it doesn’t matter as they helped you grow in some way or another. And you can either say thank you, or fuck you.

The 12 Day Countdown to 24; What I’ve Learnt, Day 9

So day 9 is upon us, what do I have to say to that? You can’t please everyone. Thats the lesson learnt for day 9.

What does this mean?

For me being the anxious person I am I find I focus a lot on making other people happy, and when this doesn’t happen or I feel like this hasn’t happened, I worry I’ve upset someone/said something wrong and I honestly fester on it for days and days worrying about it. The thought of even making someone feel this way makes me feel so defeated in everything I want to stand for.

BUT, I also realised that this really wasn’t healthy for me to obsess about it the way that I do. It actually really became an issue for me.

At the end of the day. I am going to do things in my life that not everyone might agree on. Whether it be decisions made for work, for going back to university, where I live, the way I live my life, my small habits etc. Realistically, it’s my life. I can live it any way I choose, and although I love to have other people in mind when I do things. I can’t always please everyone or make everyone happy because everyone has such different standards and expectations to mine.

And this is okay.

It’s just really nice to remind myself that every now and then I might piss someone off, but I’m okay with it because as long as I’m happy, its their problem not mine.

You cant please everyone.

Keeping Positive: Some of my Favourite Positivity Quotes

Staying Positive, especially with everything that is happening at the moment, is seriously important. When I wake up in the morning I like to post positivity quotes on my Instagram every day so that you see a nice reminder of something happy or different to think about, just incase you’re having a shitty/down day, including myself.

I feel like with the end of Lockdown and isolation in sight but COVID sticking around for the long run, sometimes things can get scary and overwhelming. I struggled with anxiety and lockdown hasn’t been the easiest, but it has been a lot easier than I thought it would be which is one positive! Trying to start the day with positivity is something I hold quite important. My happy mornings start with a cuppa tea and a book! I feel I’m ready for the day afterwards. Do what makes you feel better and best, There is nothing better than a self care morning / afternoon / day.

I wake up ad usually scroll on my IG Feed as it is all such good vibes. I like sharing those vibes so its not just me hopefully feeling a little bit better. With everything happening right now I felt a dose of positivity was needed!

Here are some of my favourite positive and happy quotes, I hope you like them too.